leave, Greek, a verb, kataleipó, I leave behind, desert, abandon, forsake
cleave, Greek, a verb, kollaó, I glue, cleave, keep company with
To obey this command, two things must happen, both leaving and cleaving.
Let's visit Gill. "it (husband/wife relationship) being stricter than that which is between parents and children; for the wife must be cleaved unto, and the father and mother forsaken: not that upon this new relation between man and wife, the former relation between parents and children ceases; nor does this phrase denote an entire separation from them, . . . but a relinquishing the house of his father and mother's bed . . . that is, he shall quit his father's house, and not bed and board there, and live with him as before; but having taken a wife to himself and shall live and cohabit with her;"
Both 'to dos' are so vital. If we have one, but not the other, it's not going to work. Today I'm more focused on the leaving that has to happen first. How many times have we seen a married couple where one or both parties have yet to 'leave'? You know, there's a spat, and the wife runs home to Mom and Dad who take her in and allow her to stay. Or there's an issue to be managed and the husband considers his mother's wishes over those of his wife. Sometimes it's a cultural thing. "This is the way it has always been in my family, we're _______ (fill in the nationality or demographic)!" Even though it's not what's best for this new family.
Both parties must LEAVE. If the man doesn't leave, he's not loving his wife, nor can he lead her because his father's house is still leading him and she's simply coming under that. If the woman doesn't leave, she's can't respect her husband, nor can she submit because she's in her heart she's still under the authority of her father.
Application ~ If we're married, in every situation involving a parent, we must ask ourselves, "Where is my heart?" If we find our heart is not appropriately departed and cleaved, it needs to be immediately confronted and corrected.
Prayer ~ Father, show me! While I think I'm usually pretty aware, I also know I'm often blind. Please Lord, show me. Open my eyes to every area or situation, big or small, where I need to leave and cleave. And thank you for the blessing of wonderful parents who want me established in my own household, and for a fabulous husband who makes it so easy to cleave.
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